Ten things bereaved parents fear

(Visiting heavenly siblings)

Today, I came across this well written article. Created by someone that understands how it feels to lose a child. And the impacts from it. I'm adding into the blog some of the main bullets, and a link to her article too. Just in case you want to learn more.

Talking about the fears bereaved parents endure might be eye opening to some people. It was for me, especially when putting a clear name to them. Like all fears, these listed below might appear to look irrational. I know most people in my life do not think these things. As the writer shared, I’m not even sure who is the “you” I am writing to; but have the assurance that it is nobody in particular. Here is the list so you can be better able to help those hurting, and honestly, so you can help me too.

On Your 11th Birthday

(A picture of how our family would have look, 11 years later)

To live ... for few minutes.

Once all the medical complications started to pile up, I reluctantly realized that the time of babies lives was coming to an end. I fought the idea. I prayed. I cried. I refused to accept that we were going to lose all of them. I hoped for a miracle and dreamed for the best, nevertheless my triplets were going to die.

But first, they were going to live! For how long? I didn't know. The doctors told us that they will likely live for only few seconds... Yes, somehow I had to compress all my life hopes and dreams to only few minutes, because I knew that Alexa, Jayden and Lilia were going to die right after their birth. How do you plan a life dream like this? How can I be prepared to be a daddy for only a handful of minutes, and then be ready to say goodbye when I didn't want to?