Some of the mean things people told us

Here is a compilation of some of the not-so-good comments we got during our journey of trying to have a child. Some of them were plain rude, others you could potentially argue that they are not too bad, or perhaps the person had good intentions when sharing it, but it came out wrong. Either way here they are. The reason of sharing them is for people to know what not to say. Also, looking back some of them seem very funny, others were upsetting (but we already got over them). Nowadays it is amusing to go back and write about it. Don't worry no names will be mentioned. But here are the comments so other people can avoid making remarks like it, for those that had experienced child loss and/or undergo infertility.

After we lost our triplets we got comments like (this group has the most upsetting ones):
- "This is God's way to tell you that you weren't meant to be a mother (or father)"
- "You would never be able to afford raising triplets anyway"
- "At least you didn't have to change their diapers"
- "Get over it, ... they are dead"
- "You are weird. Why do you go to their grave, and decorate it?"

- "What is stillborn?"

While trying to get pregnant someone said: "I'm glad I don't have infertility issues like that!"

After some of the miscarriages:
- "Oh, you can just try again. It is easy and simple" (they don't understand what infertility means)
- "Oh, go to the mountains and you'll be able to get pregnant"
- "Have sex" (really, this one cracked me up. We thought: Yeah thanks, we didn't know that!; we could have saved lots of money if we knew that's how babies are conceived)

Also, while praying during one of the pregnancies one person said: "I pray that your babies go to Heaven". (Jess could not believe that this lady just said that. So, obviously we never asked her to join us in prayers). Another person said: "You're stupid for trying again"

After we finally got our miracle boy some people said: 

- "Invitro babies are not real babies" (I should tell them now, yeah the little one running around is just an imaginary child in my head)

Other comments were:
- "You are lucky to lay in bed-rest for a long time"
- "You can't share your testimony it is too long"
- "Was your son conceived naturally?"

- "You have a son, stop missing your triplets!"

And when we had some frozen embryos left; and like many other parents, just because you have a child it doesn't mean that you should not be allowed to love to have the desire for another child, if possible. So, when we shared that we will try again, and hope that God would bless us with another child. Some people said:

- "Why do you want more children?"
- "You already have a kid, why more?"

If you really feel the need to say something, simply say: "I'm sorry about your loss", or "I'll pray for you". Otherwise it would be better to say nothing or better yet just be there near those that are heartbroken and have endure a massive gaping wound in our hearts.

Now, I wonder if any of you have received more interesting comments like it?